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Life after Suboccipital Decompression

2011-05-09T13:51:00.002-04:00

It's been 7+ months since surgery... I've had lots of ups and downs. Mostly ups! Some the downs however, revolve around me physically getting back into exercise. It's been a significant challenge ... my body just needs that slow and steady until I get back into the hardcore-ness, but it's so hard.

I signed up for a half marathon in November - running is about one of the only things that doesn't absolutely kill me or leave me in absolute pain for days.

I'm trying to get back into lifting as well - since I loved it so much.

My nuerosurgeon told me that it would be at least a year before I'm back to "normal" if I can ever get back to normal... I will have Chiari forever, there's no cure... just attempts at making it better!

09.17.2010

2010-09-17T10:00:00.003-04:00

17 days post-operation; WOW. Ok, so honestly, when I posted that "hopefully Danny will be getting on to update everyone one me"... I didn't really BELIEVE IT. Danny, while amazingly good at certain things in life, is not tech-savvy. Honestly, I still have to show him around on Facebook. So - the thought of him logging onto my Blogger, creating a post and then submitting - actually makes me laugh right about now.

Since the surgery - there have been NO symptoms that I had before. I've had good days and bad days, but they all stem around my night of sleeping. Half the time, I just can't go to sleep: house is hot, can't get comfortable, mind is racing. The other half, I go right to sleep, but wake up feeling groggy or sore. But just about EVERY NIGHT, I have these absolutely vivid dreams - that I have actually created a LIFE within my dream. It's a continuous stream of dreams... and no, I'm not on pain medication any longer, so it cannot be the cause of that. Those dreams were trippy and I wish to never go back to them.

Other than my outta-control dreams, I'd say I'm back to ME.

Follow-up nuero appointment is scheduled for next week sometime. But I have already gotten into the car and trained a few sessions. I'm taking it easy for right now.

I have so many things to do with my business... I don't even know where to start.

08.31.2010

2010-08-31T16:54:00.002-04:00

Surgery tomorrow... all sorts of emotions are running through my head. It's been a long, but short journey. So thankful to all my clients for their understanding and of course for all my family and friends for their support.

I'm nervous, but I know that I will be fine ♥

Details:

9:30am Admitting
12:00pm Surgery Begins
12:00-4:00pm ish Surgery
4:00pm until Sept 2nd Intensive Care
Sept 2nd/3rd-Sept 5th Regular Hospital Room
Sept 6th-Sept 12th Bed Rest @ Home
Sept 12th-Sept 15th Up and moving a bit more

Danny will be updating the page hopefully to let everyone know how everything is going...

08.13.2010

2010-08-13T22:50:00.001-04:00

So I should totally be in bed right now... I actually fell asleep laying sideways on the bed with my jeans + shirt on, then my dog barked and I jumped up... took a shower, and then now I'm up... go figure! LOL

Tomorrow is the Bobcat Adventure Race that I have 8-10 clients participating in. I'm so thrilled for them to be representing Fit For Fashion! It's gonna be a great day. I'm worried though. My body reacts weird to the sunlight and hotness. Plus my "worst" times are from 10-3ish, and the race STARTS at 9am! Eeek.. remaining optimistic.

It's going to kill me not to be running with them... but I don't have much longer to go. Sept 1 is the day of change! I HOPE!

All in all, hanging in there... I feel more "frumpy" than ever with this excess weight and no way of being able to SWEAT. I need to go sit in a steam bath or sauna and just sweat my ickies out. Eating habits are good -- I just have a very little appetite, so I'm trying to get in some good meals here and there. I'm still 3-5 lbs down just from watching nutrition. I just can only imagine how great my body would be if I was able to workout!

08.09.2010

2010-08-09T09:48:00.001-04:00

Feeling like crap today. Plain & simple. No appetite at all and I'm having a horrible time swallowing. I can't wait to get rid of all of this for good! I know it's a bad day and I just need to get through it, but I get so frustrated!!

Other than that- just keeping my spirits up.

I'm nervous about having brain surgery... it's a wake up call to see how life is so precious and it makes me think, "have I done all that I can?"... no, probably not. Surgery is at a "5" on the chart of risks, 10 being the highest and 1 being the lowest risk. So smack dab in the center!

Even though I'm overwhelmed tonight, I'm looking forward to a new day ♥

08.06.2010

2010-08-06T16:30:00.001-04:00

Had my second opinion today, and the decompression surgery date is SET. Technical term is: posterior fossa decompression. The date is September 1st. I'm still in shock to tell you the truth. I feel confident in the ability of my nuerosurgeon. He has trained under a Chiari specialist so that definitely is admirable. His reasoning for the surgery was that all of my symptoms fall directly in line with the Chiari. In addition, he did a reflex test with my legs -- and it was VERY interesting. He did the patellar reflex [the knee-jerk] and my legs barely moved. Then he asked me to put my chin down to my chest and did it again and my leg went flying!! This just shows how much pressure I have and how it's considerably affecting me.

The details on the surgery from what I've been told:
3 hour surgery
1-2 night(s) in ICU
2-3 additional nights in hospital
1 week bed rest
Driving by the third week

He is 70-90% certain that symptoms will be non-existant after surgery. There are of course a few complications.

I know that this may not be the ANSWER to my problems, but it sure is a step in the RIGHT direction!

07.31.2010

2010-07-31T16:53:00.003-04:00

It was a busy morning. I slept through most of the night, only waking up once or twice. I knew I was going to have a busy morning because I had two classes (Boot Camp & Body Sculpting) followed by a mock obstacle course race for my clients. My boyfriend, Danny, set it up for me and it consisted of everything from army crawls to hurdles. The girls loved it! ♥

We had: Crab walks, army crawls under a mesh net, quickfeet tire runs, flipping the 300lb tire twice, weaving through cones, cinderblock hop (laid out cinderblocks and they had to jump from one to the next), rope jumps, hurdles, and an agility (shuffle, backwards run, shuffle) drill with about roughly 2 miles of running.

The moment it was done, stress was released, but then I got a horrible headache. I came back home, and laid down and slept for another 2 hours or so. I'm beginning to feel my stamina build back up, but I just get so sleepy so quickly.

Having some difficulty figuring out my class schedule for next semester. I had to take a medical leave during the Summer, but I need to take at least 9 credit hours to remain on my parent's insurance plan, especially with the chances of having to get surgery in the near future being so high. I would typically be totally fine to take classes but I started to see my grades dropping because of the memory loss, the blanking out, the horrible headaches throughout classes, etc. My parents told me to take only 1 "harder" class and then 2 "fillers" just to get through the semester. So I started looking at what they offer. I do WANT to learn and it kills me that I can't be a normal student and take my required courses.

Danny's aunt has some connections up in Pennsylvania for a Chiari specialist, so I'm going to be sending her over my records/reports and see what he thinks. The fact that I'm so symptomatic and they aren't really budging is starting to make me nervous. I am trying SO hard to remain optimistic. At the studio, I try to act like I'm feeling 150% good. I smile, laugh, and... then go home and let it all out, either with tears, or emotion. It's a horrible cycle. I don't feel as though I'm being FAKE, but I'm trying so hard to push through the fatigue. When I find myself jumbling words and slurring, it's embarrasing. I hate looking at my client who has been coming for 1-2 months, and not even being able to call her by name because I "forgot". And the more my clients improve, I'm soooo proud of them, but then I take a step back, and I wonder... "will I be able to do that ever again?"... going from the 'best shape of your life' to not even being able to curl 5lbs more than 5 times is devastating. But you know what... I will beat this...F' U' Chiari.

07.28.2010

2010-07-28T15:17:00.002-04:00

Waking up is getting considerably harder to do, it's so crazy to me. I have Boot Camps at 6am and 7am on M/W/F. I have to set my alarm for 5am, 5:15am, 5:30am to try and roll out of bed.

Everyday I try to learn a little more about my Chiari Malformation to see if I can use the knowledge I have from my school courses in anatomy and the knowledge I have about the body and implement a structured system that works. So that's what I'm working on now. I have been in contact with people as well who are also battling this to see how they are living their lives. Surgery is an option -- however, since I'm newly diagnosed, I'd rather take some alternative approaches and use surgery as a last step because the 'decompression' surgery just horrifies me.

Danny and I signed up for a membership at a small gym facility where they have cardio equipment and are open 24-7. This is perfect for me because since I have become symptomatic and my motor skills and normal gait, etc are decreasing, I refuse to let my body just wilt away. So I've been using the cardio equipment to walk, and try to get in a faster pace walk every now and then. I'm honestly around 5-6 minutes of pure cardio before I need to take a rest. 1 year ago, I was running 5-6 miles! My parents think I need to get my "stamina" back up - so that's what I'm doing now. I can't lift any weights, so I'm utilizing resistance bands and focusing on an all-over body workout. I will also be dropping by the vitamin store to pick up some recommended supplements that will help with my memory loss and nuero issues.

I will be tracking my progress through it all. Thank you for taking the time to follow me on this journey. I'm looking at it as just another obstacle... must keep my head up.

Nutrition________________
2 eggs, scrambled
1 piece of turkey sausage
1 eggo (whole grain)

Snack size- carrot sticks

Salad, mixed greens
Grilled chicken breast topped
Balsalmic vinigarette
Piece of fruit (orange)

Celery sticks
Pudding

Small salad
Tilapia, 4oz
Steamed veggies

Fitness________________
20-25 minutes on ARC trainer
10 minutes (give or take) of resistance band work
10 minutes of Physical Therapy exercises (for 5 herniated discs in neck)
10 minutes of body resistance exercises (lunges, squats, push ups, etc)

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It felt great to sweat - that's the TRUTH. I am so thankful that my body was cooperating with me today. I know that it won't always be like that... so I have to take advantage of the "good days". I'm unwinding now before going to teach Boot Camps. Looking forward to kicking my girl's butts and living vicariously through them!

Rainy Days

2010-07-24T18:55:00.003-04:00

I got everything squared away with school - so that is a huge load off my shoulders. I took a medical leave and they were very understanding. I'm so thankful. Now I'm working on finding a solid physical therapist... since the NS that I saw recommends that I get some pretty intensive physical therapy to work on my neck, I will need to begin that process. I have some additional appointments coming up next week as well.

Danny and I went to Anytime Fitness in St. Pete and joined their club location. We love Golds, but we rarely used it and I needed a place that is smaller & 24-7 because no telling when I'll feel up for getting in a good walk or bike. I've been told to stay away from anything lifting-wise that is over 5-8lbs. I'M SO BUMMED!!! I love playing around with weights, but that just goes to show that I'll need to focus more on resistance bands and Bosu Balls. I'm thinking of coming up with a workout plan that is "Chiari friendly".

Large storms passing through tonight-- headaches are HITTING ME HARD!! AH.. I'm stuck to the couch with poor Coletta who is so scared. But this will give me time to relax and unwind. :-)

Staying positive even though my pain is pretty intense.... must keep head up.

First Visit

2010-07-20T21:42:00.003-04:00

I had my first visit with the nuerosurgeon today -- the results were so-so, he wants me to have physical therapy for 3-4 weeks (2-3 times per week) to see if the cervical herniations that I have are causing any of my symptoms.

I have a second opinion scheduled for August 6th and am looking forward to possibly getting more answers and a more in-depth outlook of what a "course of action" will include.

Fatigue is still prevalent in my life however, I'm trying to remain busy and active. I started a healthy nutrition diet to make sure that I don't gain any weight while exercise is non-existant. I will need to get in some walks, possibly an ellipitcal if possible.

One Day At A Time

2010-07-16T14:57:00.003-04:00

One of the weirdest things about having Chiari is that some days aren't AS bad as others. The pain is always constant -- but then in the middle of nowhere, a day will come where the pain is HORRIBLE. This past week, I've had two of those days. One was actually at night (Tuesday night) when I literally could not sleep. I cried myself to sleep because the pain was so bad -- the headaches would not go away and everytime I opened my eyes, the room was spinning. I ended up sleeping on the couch that night propped up in the oddest position. Right next to me was my german shepherd, Coletta, who had no sleep either because she was probably wondering what the heck I was doing on the couch.

Earlier in the week, I got my medical report from the nuerologist to have for my own records. In addition to the diagnosis of Chiari malformation I, he also pointed out that I have herniations in my neck at C4-5, C5-6, C6-7, C7-T1. WHAT? I know I have horrific pain in my neck/back -- but I don't even know how I would have gotten those herniations/bulging discs.

I meet with the specialist on Tuesday -- it's an hour north of my house, but so worth the drive to see a nuerosurgeon who knows about Chiari. I look forward to getting my situation taken care of and moving forward. As the title of this blog goes... One Day At A Time...

Shhh... It's a Secret

2010-07-11T15:19:00.003-04:00

I started off by keeping the fact that I have Chiari Malformation a secret to most people. I only told close friends and family because I don't want to gain attention and have people thinking that I'm incapable of doing things. While some things pose a problem for me, I do try to remain normal. My biggest fear was with my clients that they would, for some reason, not want to train with me because here I am, trying to showcase a healthy lifestyle for them, and now I'm unable to workout like I used to. I don't really mind them knowing about my situation -- because eventually if surgery is something that I opt to do, then they will have to figure out that something is up when I don't go in for 2-weeks and have someone cover for me. The whole situation is a double-edged sword.

This weekend has been ok- I feel the brunt of the symptoms today for sure. Waking up is beginning to get harder and harder. So I'm having to set my alarm earlier. I had a mini-breakdown this AM, because I'm so tired of feeling so tired. I am going to get in more walks and maybe some light weights to remain sane. My body has to be going through workout withdrawls. The NY Post put out an article discussing how exercise and the brain are related and how exercise can help. Unfortunately, with Chiari, it only makes symptoms that much worse. Same with driving.

I talk with the NS tomorrow (NueroSurgeon) -- so I'm hoping for some solid information. I have my list of questions to ask him regarding the surgery and recovery. It's time to get moving in the right direction... I can see being symptom-free in my future... just gotta keep taking the steps to get there.

I'm Not Stressed

2010-07-08T15:55:00.003-04:00

Yesterday panned out to be a pretty good day, with minimal headaches, and more energy than usual; so I immediately got pumped that the rest of the week would be the same. But unfortunately woke up to a throbbing headache and stiff neck. Other symptoms that crept up today were: ringing in the ears, sensitivity to light, shortness of breath, fatigue & numbness. It's certainly frustrating, but I just have to keep trekking. I remained in bed from 7:30am until 11:30am before getting out of the house (for my sanity) and running a few errands. I am now settling in until clients tonight from 6:00-8:00pm.

My mom insists that stress affects me. I'm sure stress does - but at the moment, I'm not stressed, I'm frustrated - but that's two different feelings. Frustrated because I just want to get better, but not stressed out and holding everything inside. In fact, it 'stresses' me out that she thinks I'm stressed. Go figure.

I was able to get in contact with someone who has experienced Chiari first-hand. She is the mother of a 16-y/o who was diagnosed with Chiari last year. He spent 5-6 months with symptoms, was put on a brief trial of medications, and eventually opted for the surgery (decompression). He is now symptom free. She encouraged me to weigh all options and go forth from there. It was great to hear from her and see that her son had gone through the same symptoms that I am going through now. I'm not one for taking pain medication and going through pain management, because I can see that ruining my life more than just suffering the symptoms. I've already become apathetic- I don't want to be drugged up & apathetic.

Reading through the Chiari forums have helped me to understand the issues, symptoms, and the reasons of why diagnoses can sometimes take forever. I am blessed that Chiari has been found with me and that I am on my way to getting treated properly.

Rain, rain, go away

2010-07-07T13:33:00.005-04:00

Put a call into the Nuerosurgeon today to get the scoop on a timeline of when to expect a call back. They said by the week's end. So -- that's that for now. Looking forward to hearing from their office so that I can continue my journey of figuring out all of this. On a positive note, I joined a few "Chiari Forums" for those who have experienced my symptoms and I am happy to see that I have people who understand me & what I'm going through.

No matter what the circumstances, I miss fitness & exercise. I feel like a part of me has been destroyed because I love going for jogs, lifting weights, participating in group activities that are "fitness based" and now... I'm forced to only minimal activity. I have begun to change my eating habits around so that I will still see a decline in the scale. I look forward to taking walks with Coletta (my German Shepherd) & hopefully will not see a further decline in muscle weakness.

A part of me wants to try and push it with exercise, maybe just a 1-mile jog wouldn't be so bad? But I won't allow myself, because I honestly cannot take a worsening of symptoms! Today, isn't so bad. I have the stiff neck & stiff shoulders, but no 'pounding' headache *knock on wood*. I am VERY fatigued though, which is somewhat odd to me since I had 8-9 hours of sleep last night.

With my freezing of school classes and my lowering my clientel base with my business, I figured this time is better than any to pick up sewing again. I'm nervous that my hand/eye coordination will drive me nuts, but if I stay with simple projects (i.e. pants/skirts/etc) then I should be OK. Many people have told me that "God will never give me something that I can't handle" and "Things happen for a reason"... I do believe this. However, it is much easier said then experienced.

Never Give Up

2010-07-06T22:30:00.007-04:00

Run when you can, walk when you have to, crawl if you must. Just never give up.

Busy day tomorrow at the Studio, so I'm really hoping for a solid night's sleep and pressure in my head/neck/shoulders to be lessened when I wake up in the AM. Waiting for the call from the Nuerosurgeon to see how we go forth from here.

Life Altering

2010-07-06T15:07:00.003-04:00

As I look back on my latest post written on June 11, 2010 - it all starts to come together. The weakness, the fatigue, depression, headaches, nausea, the loss of motor skills, falling, dropping things, numbness, feeling cold all the time... welcome to my life - Chiari.

In fact, Chiari has most likely been with me my entire life but it decided to absolutely deter my life through symptoms within the past 1-2 months and has caused me to look and demand for answers. Throughout the past couple of months, I have been told that Anemia (low-iron), stress, tension, and just a "bug" have been the cause of all of my symptoms. However, a trip to the walk-in clinic and a doctor prescribing a CT Scan has turned my life around.

In the midst of summer classes and overwhelming interest in my business, Chiari - you have not come at the most opportune time. The headaches feel like someone is pounding the back of my head -- I have to leave social settings and relax in dark rooms so that I don't get so nauseas that I vomit. The dark rooms and my symptoms have taken the light from my smile and replaced it with a fake one because who can honestly be truely happy when you feel this bad? I laugh, and it hurts worse. I cry, and it hurts worse. I have become somewhat apathetic to be honest. Casually smiling at something so funny that I would usually end up tearing up from.

I have only told close friends and family about my new friend, Chiari, because I don't want people to feel "bad" for me. I'm a strong person -- so I will get through this, but it's just a pretty significant obstacle. I can't exercise (which if you know me, is my life) -- so I live vicariously through my clients. I feel helpless at times when I start to think about it, because I'm just waiting for doctors to tell me my next move.

So far my timeline has looked like this:

Walk-in clinic --> CT Scan --> Referred to nuerologist & MRI --> Referred to nuerosurgeon

So that's where we stand at this moment. I assume a nuerosurgeon will show me some options and go through all of my symptoms. I have been writing them down daily so that I can show him that Chiari has incapitacted my life, from work to school, to social life and beyond.

I hope to find others who have the same diagnosis as I do. I can usually play on the computer for hours, and now with these headaches, I'm down to about 10-20 minutes max at a time.

Irony

2010-06-11T22:03:00.002-04:00

It has been one of those days where one constantly thinks of the past. Not in a bad or good way. Just thinking about life -- and how different things are compared to then. Then you start to think about how you are happy now, but reflect on the idea that you 'thought' you were happy back then too. So which happy is the 'right' happy? I don't think reflecting on the past means that you are unsatisfied with the life you have right now. I believe it's good to look back and reflect on your old boyfriends/girlfriends, your old friends, your old memories. Without those "old" things -- you wouldn't be you, and your life today wouldn't exist.

I enjoy being a busy person and I enjoy challenges -- but I have felt weak and hopeless more in the last week then I have in a while. Weak more so because I don't have the energy that I had before -- whether it's because I've taken on more responsibility now or because of a lack of sleep. I don't feel as "bubbly" as I used to be -- but it's not because I'm not happy. I'm nervous that I'll lose my goofiness self and remain serious, boring, and uninteresting. I really don't want to be the too serious part. I'm hoping that I can get my 'required studies' out of the way in order to let loose a little bit. It would be good for my soul, my mind, and my body.

Cheers to a good week & an even better weekend~

True Bliss is Internal Peace

2009-11-23T15:28:00.005-05:00

Word of the Day: Peace

It's been a little while since I've posted - I've been trying to remain busy and productive with school and the Business. We are now approaching the Holiday week with Thanksgiving in a few days. I will be celebrating Thanksgiving in a much different way this year - but I will get to that shortly.

This weekend was a fun one: Friday evening was not very eventful but it was a much needed down-time. On Saturday morning, I had my Body Sculpting class, one client, and then did a 3-mile Walk around Crescent Lake Park with a few clients who wanted to "test" out the distance. Afterwards- I was literally just exhausted. Oddly though- because prior to the walk, I had lots of energy. After I got home, I relaxed and took a light nap before going out for the night. It was Monica's 25th Birthday - one of my closest girlfriends.. and she wanted to celebrate before honkey-tonkey'ing it at the Waterin' Trough. It was a good time. I saw many faces that I haven't been able to see lately. However, I didn't pull back into my house until 2:00am and I had the 5K Run with my clients in the AM. WOW... sleep is overrated...

5:45am I barely was able to roll outta bed, get dressed and start prepping for the event. I met my clients at 6:30am near the race start. There were 13 of them. I was sooo proud of all of them for being able to complete the event.. everyone was able to finish under 1 hour. I also had two clients who were doing the Half Marathon! You go girls!

By the time 9pm rolled around on Sunday evening - I was beyond ready for sleep but school stuff prevailed unfortunately. Now it's Monday ~ and I received an email this AM from my horoscope that read "True Bliss is Internal Peace"... this is soooo true. When you are happy with yourself within - everything else that may seem to be going wrong just isn't so bad.

I try to tell my clients that sometimes they need to work on their INSIDE before they can begin to work on their OUTSIDE fitness. Inside meaning the mental and emotional portion of their health. Getting rid of stress, relaxing at times and being in a stable relationship.. can all contribute to getting off the extra pounds when one starts a regimen.

This week - Danny and I will be heading to Branson, Missouri - we will be taking my Grandma there to see her brother and sister (my aunt and uncle). We leave Wednesday AM and we will be back around Sunday PM. The drive will be LONG but in the end - it will be worth it! :) I'm sad that I'll be missing the holidays with my parents and sisters but I think that this trip will be so good for my Grandma.

Until next time....

Sundays

2009-11-08T21:20:00.004-05:00

Jack and I on our way to a wedding 2 weeks ago. Danny's driving!

Word of the Day: Productive

Ok- so productive is somewhat true. I have been absolutely blasted with schoolwork, and it's not that my teachers are so horrible that they bombarded me with an endless amount, but rather, I've been slacking. OK- so I admit it, and now I must move forward...

So I've been productive in clearing out my homework to-do list. And with just trying to become organized in all aspects of my life.

The week begins tomorrow-- bright and early with 5:30am Boot Camp. Wee! I honestly look forward to my Boot Camp groups - they make it worth my while to train them. I am hoping that I get more and more to sign up because I feel that Boot Camp is an EXCELLENT way to train. Hell, I'd even take Boot Camp!

So this week- Danny's schedule is a little odd, but that's ok... it'll give me more time to focus on my schoolwork and my business side-work (such as client programs, etc) -- not that he takes away my focus, but when we have time to spend together, we simply like to ENJOY our time together rather than watch one another work. It also means that during the day, I will be heading to the gym solo (which is GOOD too). Our workout routine has been going great together and we're both losing pounds/inches and getting closer through it all.

No new clients over the weekend, but I honestly didn't push for it. I did have two clients sign up on Saturday (after trying it out last week) so that was successful. Once Wednesday rolls around, I'll be doing flyers. I'm going to flyer some houses near the studio and perhaps mail out some to a list that I've been generating over time. My goal is to go into December with at least 20 girls signed up in my Boot Camp groups. Right now, I'm at: 10-12 girls with a couple of them *possibly* joining.

Bucs won today -- very pumped about that. I just feel bad for them... they get harped on like crazy, but it's tough to reassemble a team and start making progress. I feel like the Bucs in a way. My business is new - I make mistakes all the time - and I'm trying to learn from them on a daily basis, and I still get up every morning and practice. Game days = pay days. I gotta pay the bills, and I gotta support myself... thus, with no good games (clients) - I fail. So here's to the Bucs, for kicking butt today and even if it's your only win this season, I'm still a fan <3

Until then...

Follow me...

2009-11-06T14:09:00.004-05:00

Word of the Day: Overwhelmed

How does one get on the right page? How does one know if they are doing all that they can do? Sleep doesn't come so easily for me any longer. But I have never been happier in my life - so it's a bittersweet feeling. I have found that I most likely have adult ADD (or perhaps just a lot on my plate), but I will begin on 1 thing and shift gears so quick to the next thing. To-Do lists only get longer and more stressful and I find that writing them actually takes a considerable amount of time. I adore my actual planner and cannot get used to plugging in events into my Black Berry. Call me old school.

Business: I have felt more frustration as a business owner this week, more than any other, with 5-6 clients just "not showing" up. I adore my clients and I want the best for them, but when they simply don't show up, I'm wasting my time. Emergencies are one thing but just not showing, forgetting, too tired - those are all something else. It certainly gives me an appreciate for other service industries. I'm going to be implementing a policy where if they don't cancel 24-hr ahead of time, they forfeit their session. In addition, if I miss a session for whatever reason, they get a free one on me. That way, they will see that I'm not harping on them, but rather trying to help them.

Personal: Danny and I have begun a workout regimen -- since I am more free during the day, I have time to market and get in some personal time that I have been lacking so much. I believe that's where the "happier than ever" statement comes into play because I honestly enjoy doing things other than working and socializing at night with friends. I like taking walkes, playing with my dogs, going to the gym, sitting at SBux and reading the paper. Those things are my ways of relaxing. I hope to take up Bellydancing and get back into sewing as well. I feel that it is SO important for us, as human beings, to not only center our life around work. Granted, I adore my work and I look forward to going there everyday -- but there's more to life than work. I have honestly never been as "strapped for cash" in my lifetime, but I'm doing things I love to do. Now, if I don't start making some money quickly - then there will be issues!

Passion: Which always brings me back to writing... whether if it's in journal form or informative... I want to write a few books and perhaps begin a magazine. My life would then be complete. I'd give up lattes for it even. I'd give up lattes and my Black Berry.... ooohh, my heart hurts just thinking like that...

Until then...

Hard work pays off...

2009-06-05T16:22:00.003-04:00

What are you all about?

What do you enjoy doing?

Do you have a passion?

Do you have the guts to follow it?

I finally did it. And I have never been happier. Oh believe me, owning a business can be extremely stressful - but being able to take that stress and turn it into something even better --> success is what I'm shooting for EVERY SINGLE DAY. I cannot be too sure where I will go in the future. I have my dreams and goals written in my small book so I look forward to crossing them off one-by-one. As for blogging, I will soon have a NEW and improved blog thanks to Maddie at www.betterinpink.com along with a website showcasing my new business name "Fit for Fashion".

As I go back and read each post thus far, it shows how I have been growing and growing and just waiting to take the step... now that I've leaped, it's time to get my business cap on and start producing.

Oh and by the way, it's never too late to start,
so what are you waiting for?

Be Like Nike... Just Do It

2009-02-20T15:28:00.004-05:00

Most of us have this CLEAR PICTURE of what we want to accomplish, whether it be with our businesses, our education, or even for our bodies - we are designed that way. We think ahead and look into the future. I even created a list of "things I'd love to accomplish in 2009", however, if we spend so much time focusing on how we'd LIKE to be, we'll never have time to freaking DO IT. So - for this weekend, instead of thinking and plotting ways to get to a certain "starting point" - just START.

I personally did this today, I kept putting off when I was going to begin my program under Jenny Lynn (JL) - I wanted to hold off until all my supplements arrived, but then I looked at myself in the mirror and told myself thast "I CANNOT WAIT FOR A SUPPLEMENT TO ARRIVE TO BEGIN THIS PROGRAM" & I knocked out 60 minutes of pure-cardio this AM & I'm about to head out to do an intense lower body workout. It feels great because I am now on my way to getting to the "figure" that I want to accomplish.

Perhaps I can now begin to scratch things off my list, instead of just piling them on!

A Girl's Guide to a NASCAR Event

2009-02-19T13:46:00.004-05:00

Whether you are a die-hard NASCAR fan or you are tagging along with a significant other – attending one of these car racing events is truly a one-of-a-kind experience. Before I left for Daytona Beach, I did a “search” for what to wear and bring, but nothing really served as a good reference. Therefore, I am supplying all the females with a special inside outlook on what will keep you comfortable and of course, cute, for race day.

First things first- what to bring:

*The Official NASCAR site says that you may only bring a 6x6x12 soft cooler, or a clear plastic bag, so I followed the rules, but found out that the following will be submitted:

♥ Clear Plastic Backpack

Wal-Mart, $9.98

♥ Soft Cooler, Small to Medium sized

Wal-Mart, $12.00-$25.00

♥ Poncho

*I experienced this first hand- most of the time you will not need to use it, but it’s always good to bring just in case!

*Unfortunately, it’s pretty hard to look *cute* in a poncho, but they are always something you should bring to amusement parks or any other daily event that may be susceptible to rain. Perhaps get a poncho that supports your local football or baseball team (I saw this often and it’s a more stylish option than just the basic ‘bag’)

♥ Seat Cushion

*Support your favorite driver or get a basic NASCAR seat cushion here at Sports Authority

♥ Sunscreen

*Hopefully you will not have to use the Poncho and you will pull this baby out! We all know how the sun is damaging to skin- so be prepared and save yourself from the horrible tan lines and sunburns.

♥ Within the Cooler – Snacks/Beverages

*Pack something to eat and beverages of your choice. If you make a sandwich, leave the mayonnaise/mustard off of it & pick up the little packets at the grocery store (if not, your sandwich will end up soggy). As far as beverages go – be sure to pack some h2o, but in the spirit of NASCAR – beer is the drink of choice. For a lighter option, pick out a light beer. AND make sure you purchase cans, as opposed to bottles.

♥ Jacket

*Especially for the races in February and March, cooler weather CAN happen. So bring one just in case.

♥ Digital Camera

*You will want to snap some shots of all the neat things going on! If you purchase “Fan Zone” tickets, then you will be up and close with the Pit & their Crews – and you will have the ability to walk along the track.

♥ Cash

*Cards are accepted, but honestly, cash is easier to track and you can get through the lines for souvenirs/ food/ and drinks easier.

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I created the following for an overview:

♥ Support your favorite driver or NASCAR in general - purchase a tank!

♥ If jeans are as comfortable to you, as they are to me, then sport them. If you are attending an Event during the Summer months, you may want to bring or wear shorts.

♥ Sneakers are a MUST! You will do lots of walking, so be prepared. Maybe even stretch a little bit the morning before you head to the Event.

♥ Wear a baseball cap - the sun will be shining & you need to protect your face.

♥ Wear sunglasses to protect your eyes as well!

I think that with this guide - you will be prepared to attend the Event! Gentleman, start your engines!

The Girl Behind the Screen

2009-02-02T09:21:00.004-05:00

I promise that I will have VLOGS up shortly, I'm actually purchasing the Flip today, this weekend was quite hectic! However, there are tons of the *25 Things About You* going around, so I thought I'd post some here just to let my readers get to know me a little bit more... Hope you enjoy. xo

♥ 1.) My full name is Rebekah Marie Faith Reidy. My nicknames are as follows: Bekah, Bek, Beckers, Guaci (as in Guacimole), Bekah Boo, or simply Boo.

♥ 2.) I will be turning 24 in April and I am not very enthused about it.

♥ 3.) I absolutely adore anything monogrammed or personalized.

♥ 4.) Ever since I was five, I always wanted to be a teacher - the dream went away in highschool when I looked at the income of a teacher, but I've ended up becoming a personal trainer (which is utilizing teaching so I am living my dream).

♥ 5.) I'm one of the guys, but a girly girl at heart.

♥ 6.) I am usually five minutes late for just about everything, but fashionably late nonetheless.

♥ 7.) Ever since I purchased my Black Berry, it has not left my side.

♥ 8.) I'm a *Sun Bunny* meaning that I love the sun and anything involving me being out in the sun, i.e. : tanning, beach, boating, jet skiing, exercising outdoors, canoeing, kayaking, etc.

♥ 9.) I swear that my dogs understand me when I'm speaking.

♥ 10.) I can do the human pretzel.

♥ 11.) I have one of the most distinguished laughs, I usually try to cover it up, but one or two drinks in and it's out and proud. Many say it's *cute*.

♥ 12.) Until I was in college, I would only eat the following: grilled cheese sandwiches, macaroni & cheese, salads, and vegetables.

♥ 13.) I absolutely adore different cultures, and hope to become fluent in more than 3 languages.

♥ 14.) My favorite piece of jewerly are earrings, hands down.

♥ 15.) I have troubles balancing out partying and studies, so usually I go overboard on one for a week and then switch.

♥ 16.) In discussing partying, I am a lightweight - it takes approximately 1 Presidente Margarita from Chilis, 2 Goose & tonics w/ limes, or 1.5 glasses of wine to get me feeling 'goooooood'.

♥ 17.) I am probably the oldest teenybopper ever; I still groove to JT & Britney Spears, melt over Donnie of NKOTB and I saw Twilight on opening night (along with 1,000 other screaming 14-year olds).

♥ 18.) I'm a pretty creative person.

♥ 19.) I absolutely love fashion design and sewing - I wish I had more *time* to spend doing it.

♥ 20.) I have my budgets in excel, multiple planners, to-do lists plastered everywhere, and sticky notes galore.

♥ 21.) Perhaps my closet is small, but all of my clothes do not fit in it - I take up the hall-way closet and some of my sister's as well. Nothing to be concerned about- but I just think twice when I need to go *shopping*.

♥ 22.) I am part of the Powerpuff girls. I'm Buttercup. My two best friends are a redhead (Blossom) & blond (Bubbles).

♥ 23.) I bust a move at all times of the day - randomly, half dressed, in my dreams..

♥ 24.) Exercise is an essential part of my week - without it, I'm cranky and all out of wack. Same goes for music.

♥ 25.) I live life with a purpose.

Disappointed?

2009-02-02T08:35:00.002-05:00

Disappointment. The word haunts me. I remember growing up - my dad never ever yelled at my sisters and I, but he would calmly say "I'm disappointed in your actions"... and it would tear us apart. However, I don't think it could quite compare to the feeling that I get when I'm disappointed in MYSELF.

When we are training or competing - we push ourselves to the maxx, we try to exceed old limitations and delve deeper. We resist temptations because we know it will slow us down if we don't. We almost become a 'super-human'. But then one day comes where you fall off track, skip a workout, give in to the temptations - and then... the disappointment follows...

In order to keep the 'hope' and 'drive' alive, you must:

♥ Adjust your expectations. Not every team wins the Super Bowl or Olympic gold. Not every applicant gets the job. Illness happens. Not every marriage soars. It might make sense not to set your goals so high. But who wants to settle for mediocrity?
On the one hand, hope can be misplaced. If your highest hope is in achievement, you will eventually be disappointed—success is transient. On the other hand, if we're so afraid of disappointment that we lower our hopes, we can close ourselves off from what we were born to do. The proper balance can be elusive.

♥ Learn from your defeats. Disappointment and failure build character and patience, when allowed to do so. They can teach you to win and lose with grace, an increasingly lost art these days.

I know that I have not personally pushed myself as hard as I can be pushed. It is my goal to do that from here on out because I don't want to feel that disappointment. I've come so far to just plateau now.

Keep on Pushing...

2009-01-29T15:10:00.002-05:00

Ok, so you took the *leap* and you're finally doing something that you absolutely have a *passion* for, but then the inevitable occurs - you hit a rough spot. My advice to you: Keep on pushing. If you aren't running into obstacles - then I'd be scared because it's simply GOING TO HAPPEN. We're going to stress out, lose clients, encounter a rainy day with our outdoor bootcamps, have to repair equipment, deal with outside issues, stumble our words, wake up late, and even get sick - but it's how we deal with those obstacles that make us successful.

We need to consistently surround ourselves with people who lift our spirits and challenge us to rise higher. We need mentors and friends who are willing to listen to us grumble. We need to focus on the positives, rather than the negatives (such as: the "so-called" recession). However,most importantly, we *must* have faith in ourselves and the confidence within to excel in whatever it is that we may do.

From one small business owner to another, Rawk it!

Quote of the Day

2009-01-28T23:07:00.003-05:00

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

I personally adore this quote - there's nothing more special then a person who feels 'fully alive' and frankly, in today's world - we don't have enough of those people. We only have one life to live, so we need to make the most of it. We hear these inspirational sayings all the time - but do you just listen to it and then carry on with your day? And at what point do you actually ask yourself "What makes me come alive?" and then go for it?

♥ Get that body you've been wanting.

♥ Ask that boy/girl out instead of waiting for them to do so.

♥ Start that business you've dreamed about.

♥ Cut that credit card in half.

♥ Get back in touch with an old friend.

♥ Apologize. Even though you should have a year ago.

♥ Smile at people - start conversations.

♥ Try that new hobby that you're embarrased about trying.

♥ Push yourself harder in the gym.

♥ Study harder. Educate yourself.

Seriously, what do you have to lose?

Your Perfect 'Fit'

2009-01-26T11:52:00.004-05:00

Some say that opposites attract; while others swear they are with their twin because they enjoy & dislike the same exact things - so for those within the fitness industry, does your significant other live the lifestyle that you live each day? If you are single, do you look for someone who lives the same lifestyle as you do? When you are so passionate about something - does your significant other need to be just-as-passionate as you are?

♥ Perhaps if you and your S.O. are fit together - then you should apply to be the Fittest Couple of the Year in Los Angeles, California.

♥ Many celebs pair up quite nicely, here's a few 'Fit Couples'

♥ One couple is taking their journey from unhealthy to fit TOGETHER and is blogging about it - check it out at Mr. and Mrs. Get Fit

♥ An important note to remember for all relationships: Self-esteem is important for a healthy relationship. When you truly like yourself, in spite of any failings and weaknesses you may have, you'll feel confident. And when you feel confident and secure within yourself, you can enjoy being with your partner for the joy they bring to your life, not because you feel you need them to survive.

Ready for a Jump Start?

2009-01-23T10:50:00.004-05:00

I had the pleasure of having to jump start my car this morning - but after it was running and I was on my way to work, I thought about how it's a necessity to "jump start" different areas of our lives every now and then. From relationships, to financial messes - being able to jump start and mix things up can really save us from falling into a routine. However, one of the biggest routines that many people get involved in is with their workout routine!

There are women in the gym who have their workout routine down to a TEE. They come in, grab an elliptical, do that for 40 minutes- stretch, do a couple of resistance machines, and they are done. After months and months of this, they have yet to see any results. As I walk around the gym and introduce myself to all the potential clients, I try to make it a point to let them know that it is essential that they switch up their workouts every now and then.

Jump start your workout routine TODAY by doing the following:

♥ Researching & Implementing HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) into your workout

♥ On your daily run - incorporate sprints into a normal jog

♥ Sign up for a Bootcamp or Group Fitness session that will be different then your regular daily workout routine. In LA? Visit Body Synergy OR In St. Pete, FL? Visit Combat Fitness

♥ Invest in a Personal Trainer to get top notch results faster. Sports Specific in St. Pete, FL? Visit Ryan Magin Are you a Bride-to-Be in Detroit, Michigan? Visit Jenny at MadeFitTV, OR Strength Training in Edison, NJ? Visit Zach at Underground Strength

♥ Focus on keeping your heart rate UP - spend less time on 'resting'

♥ Embrace the jump rope! (or jumping in general) See: Plyometrics

♥ Utilize your weekends for Activity-Based Events - go kayaking, rock climbing, cycling along a trail, hiking, play a game of football with your friends, etc!

Al Natural

2009-01-22T15:49:00.004-05:00

If you are anything like me - make-up is kind of a big deal. I'm not talking about loads and loads of make-up, but applying foundation, blush, mascara is an everyday ritual. However, today, I woke up and realized that my foundation container is empty. At first, I went through a stage of panic - however, after applying some moisturizer, I stepped away from the mirror and left for work.

According to Good Morning America, women spend $50 BILLION annually on cosmetics, and many are simply addicted to buying and wearing products.

In addition, a study in France found this research:

Makeup’s effect on our senses results in two different psychological effects: camouflage and seduction.Camouflage is all about reducing anxiety, supporting our internal defense mechanisms, and helping with emotional stability. Seduction is about being more socially assertive and extroverted. The way you use makeup depends on your individual psychological profile.

Could you go one week without make-up? I don't even know if I can successfully make it through this day without it!

Plans of Action

2009-01-20T14:09:00.005-05:00

Plan of Action:

♥ I am working hard to network myself and meet other fitness enthusiasts around the world

♥ I am trying to find a web designer to create a site including my personal training services, my fashion designs & my freelance writing portfolio. Any ideas/suggestions - let me hear it!

♥ I am trying to increase my knowledge on all aspects of fitness and nutrition - I will be getting certified in teaching
Punk Rope, as well as, taking a Certified Nutrition course.

♥ I am becoming acquainted with the golf industry. I will be tapping into the training of golfers and golf attire for women. DEFINITELY LOOK FORWARD TO GETTING BETTER AT GOLF TOO! :-)

♥ I will be graduating at the end of April with a Bachelors of Applied Science in International Business, however, most likely returning for a second bachelor's in either: Nutrition or Exercise Science.

♥ I hope to increase the number of women attending my Bootcamps and possibly create an Advanced Bootcamp with HIGH intensity. Whew.

♥ I will begin training for a 100-mile bike ride for MS with a cycling team. This ride is on May 15th & 16th, 2009. To join the team: Go here: Cycling Team in Pinellas County, Florida

Fitness Bootcamps

2009-01-20T13:57:00.003-05:00

They are popping up all over the place - and understandingly so, because they pretty much rock. Fitness bootcamps allow clients to push themselves like they have never pushed themselves before. These bootcamps are usually not as expensive as one-on-one training but they are getting in a solid workout. In addition, the inspiration and motivation that a client can gain from the others in the group is tremendous. I have been focusing on bootcamps ever since I began training because they are so much fun. The women in my group LOVE being pushed until they cannot go any further (and I will gladly push them to that point!)

Bootcamps in Florida are fun because we can utilize the outdoors incorporating sprints and longer runs. I enjoy using equipment such as: jump ropes, cones, kettlebells, Bosu balls, resistance bands, and dumbbells.

Bootcamps are the craze for 2009! Join one or start one today :-)

Gym-Girl Sights 12/16/08

2008-12-17T12:54:00.005-05:00

Sight of 12/16/2008: WHERE ARE ALL THE LADIES?!

Perhaps I should have realized this was to be the case so close to the Holidays, but the gym is empty. Even the group fitness classes are beginning to BARE. As a new trainer, I am discouraged, but I hold my head up high. January is right around the corner just waiting to welcome all those with New Year's Resolutions. However, while the gym may be more empty than usual - the girls in the gym are rocking out. They are utilizing functional training as well as interval training. They are getting off the cardio machines with a SMILE on their face. They are coming in groups or buddies. Keep it up ladies - the gym is a place for you to get away and focus on YOU - embrace that chance. :-)

New Beginnings ♥

2008-12-06T20:58:00.005-05:00

My sisters and I planted a small Oak tree in the house I grew up in when I was ten years old. That darn tree never seemed to grow - even though I aged quickly. I drove by my old house today (since it's only two minutes down the street from where I reside now) and it was huge. I had the urge to park the car on the street and just walk up to it - so I did. I stood underneath it and looked up and just smiled. It was such a great feeling since I knew what it looked like when I planted it and now I saw it so beautiful and large. However, it brought me to realizing that we are all in a constant state of growth. Whether it's physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. I look back at my life one year ago, and I had never in my wildest dreams would have pictured my life to be the way it is today.

New Beginnings, in my opinion, is that time where you feel like you have a fresh start at something new. This could be a new career, a new addition to the family like a baby or a pet, a loved one (coming or going), or simply just an "A-HA" moment that awakens your soul and makes you feel rejuvenated.

New Beginnings often have a high/low feeling. You first feel the excitement and it's overwhelming, but then you experience the lower feeling of anxiousness, nervous-ness, and constant thoughts of wonderings. However, these New Beginnings are great for your Being. They allow you to look at your past - reflect on it - and then take a deep breath and let it all go, for you are now, a *new* person.

Instead of focusing on New Years Resolution's typical goals like losing weight, and becoming more organized - focus on bettering yourself from the inside out... accept yourself for who you are, and allow yourself to grow.

Plant the seed to your future, and watch it grow into a beautiful, large tree because everyone deserves a New Beginning ♥

Gym-Girl Sights 12/04/08

2008-12-04T21:19:00.005-05:00

Starting this new "Gym Girl Sights" - since I'm in the gym at least 4-5 times per week prospecting clients and training, I thought I'd post up some things that I see. It should turn out to be interesting.

Sight of 12/04/2008: CARDIO CARDIO CARDIO.

Ladies, there ARE weights at the gym TOO! Do not be scared of them, they will not bite, jump at you, or make you look like the Hulk, Aw-nald, or the dude on the cover of body building. We are WOMEN! In fact, being a woman should INCREASE the reason why we should be spending time with weights. We have babies, hold them, rock them - chase around kids, lift them up - carry in groceries - clean house; seriously, THE LIST GOES ON!

Next time you're in the gym - do NOT fear the weights. Instead, ask your personal trainer or front desk girl to give you a run through of a couple machines to get you started. It will improve your overall TONING OF YOUR BODY, prevent injury (if you lift correctly), and will create LEAN MUSCLE MASS! (which lowers our Body Fat percentages, YAY).

Good luck & heavy lifting :-)

It's a New Day

2008-11-18T14:38:00.004-05:00

I feel like people all over the world are being extremely inspirational today. Perhaps the colder weather is bringing people TOGETHER for warmth, or perhaps I'm just living in a fairy tale world (in which case, I never want to leave). I logged onto Twitter to see numerous posts with "inspirational sayings" & it made me feel so good. We are almost to the end of 2008. For me, 2008 has been one hell of a ride, and frankly, I'm so excited for 2009 to get here - I feel like I have grown so much, and IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION, and I cannot wait to continue on that path.

Inspirational quotes allow me to take a step back and unwind. They show me that it's OK to mess up, fall down, and get lost. They accept ME for who I AM. In addition, they show me that I better get up, I better start moving forward, and I better stay true to myself.

So once you log off from the computer today, I want you to think about inspiration. Who has inspired you? Do you inspire others? How has your year been? What can you improve? What are your goals?

You should:

♥ Hold hands with a loved one, boy or girl.

♥ Smile to strangers.

♥ Donate $ to charity.

♥ Walk an extra mile in your workout, for those who can't walk.

♥ Take advantage of all of your senses, smell, touch, sight, hearing.

♥ Tell someone WHY you love them, instead of simply stating "I love you".

♥ Sit up straight and proud, learn to focus on posture.

& remember... Tomorrow is a New Day, make it special.

Stretch It Out

2008-11-06T20:44:00.002-05:00

1 in 100 people stretch after a workout. Are you a part of this alarming statistic? I REALLY hope not because stretching is such a vital part of exercise.

Stretching does the following for your body:

♥ Allows the athlete to achieve their best performance.

♥ Extends that performance for years by avoiding the consequences of long-term muscle strain.

♥ Enhanced ability to learn and perform skilled movements.

♥ Reduced muscular soreness & muscle tension.

♥ Reduced severity of painful menstruation (dysmenorrhea) in females.

Important Note: Stretching is NOT warming up! Warming up should be done before your workout & before you stretch. The goals of warming up according to Kurz is: "an increased awareness, improved coordination, improved elasticity and contractibility of muscles, and a greater efficiency of the respiratory and cardiovascular systems."

When you are stretching, remember to BREATHE! It sounds ridiculous but it's true! Proper breathing control is important for a successful stretch. Proper breathing helps to relax the body, increases blood flow throughout the body, and helps to mechanically remove lactic acid and other by-products of exercise.

ALL WARMED UP & READY TO STRETCH? ---

The best time to stretch is when your muscles are warmed up. If they are not already warm before you wish to stretch, then you need to warm them up yourself, usually by performing some type of brief aerobic activity.

Important Note: If the weather is very cold, or if you are feeling very stiff, then you need to take extra care to warm-up before you stretch in order to reduce the risk of injuring yourself.

Ideally, a particular stretch should work only the muscles you are trying to stretch. Isolating the muscles worked by a given stretch means that you do not have to worry about having to overcome the resistance offered by more than one group of muscles. In general, the fewer muscles you try to stretch at once, the better. For example, you are better off trying to stretch one hamstring at a time than both hamstrings at once. By isolating the muscle you are stretching, you experience resistance from fewer muscle groups, which gives you greater control over the stretch and allows you to more easily change its intensity. As it turns out, the splits is not one of the best stretching exercises. Not only does it stretch several different muscle groups all at once, it also stretches them in both legs at once.

PLEASE don't forget to stretch next time you workout, it's a super important exercise tool that only takes ten to fifteen minutes to complete. Use this time to unwind and concentrate on YOU. It's time to be selfish.

Reducing Stress: "Dropping the ball"

2008-11-02T15:20:00.003-05:00

I took a stroll though the "Self-Help" section of the bookstore just to take a look at what they had to offer. I grabbed a few, and sat down to skim through. I didn't end up buying anything because frankly, I don't really know what I was looking to find . As humans, especially females, we search everyday for the answers of why we're aging quickly, fighting with our significant others, or gaining weight. We spend countless dollars and energy into looking for why we're stressed and upset. As I closed the last book, I began to wonder, "I hope Monica found her phone", "I wonder if Danny looked into his application process", "I wonder if my Uncle found out how to work the internet"... then I gasped.

I have been spending countless hours struggling within because I'm onboard with other people's problems. All of the people listed above have asked me in some way, shape, or form to "catch their ball". And instead of walking away and simply stating, listen- I need ME time.. I seriously caught that ball and held onto it.

When you catch someone's ball (AKA problem), you end up putting aside what you were doing in the first place and later on, you're STRESSED because you're behind schedule. So what do we do, just leave our friends to fend for themselves? No. There are times when catching this ball is necessary - however, we are probably catching it alot more than we should. Just because we state that "I'm sorry, I really cannot afford to help you out at this moment, let me get my own stuff straightened out and I'll call you back" does not mean that you don't care for your friend.

Instead, "the key is to know when we're catching another ball so that we won't feel victimized, resentful, or overwhelmed (Carslon, 1997).

Carlson also says that:

♥ By simply answering your phone when you're really too busy to talk is a form of catching the ball. By answering, you're willingly taking part in the interaction that you may not have the time, energy, or mind-set for at the present time.

So this week - let's try to drop the ball a few times, for our own sanity's sake. Good luck!

Maybe Monday...

2008-10-27T13:53:00.003-04:00

Maybe today you should:

♥ Tell a friend a joke & laugh together!

♥ Sign up and meet people on Twitter. Become addicted with me.

♥ Have tea instead of coffee.

♥ Offer to help someone in your office or household with something small.

♥ Call up an old friend to see how they are doing.

♥ Look at fish-eye pictures of dogs. So cute.

Interview: Makeup Artist, Kristine Bruno

2008-10-24T11:55:00.006-04:00

I had the pleasure of interviewing Kristine Bruno, a makeup artist, and I was able to ask her some questions regarding makeup & the application of it. I learned so many things myself!

1. How did you get involved with makeup? For as long as I can remember, I have always loved makeup! I remember when I was a little girl my parents had a friend whose wife wore makeup and everytime I saw her, she would put lipstick on me and I thought it was the best thing! Drinking and eating while I had my lipstick on was such an ordeal because I was so afraid of it coming off! I wanted it to stay on forever! After high school, I went to Cosmetology school and got my license and have been doing it professionally ever since!

2. What is your favorite thing about makeup? That it has the ability to totally transform the way someone looks! Its completely fascinating to me!

3. Do you do your own makeup everyday? How long does it take for you to do? I do not do my makeup everyday. I do it if I am going out, or working, but if I'm just running up to the grocery store or being lazy, I don't do it. When I do get all dolled up it takes me anywhere from 1-2 hours to do my makeup, depending on the look I'm doing.

4. What is the best colors to use if you are going to get your picture taken? I would say to make sure you are wearing the right color foundation and do NOT wear a foundation with a high SPF. Flash photography makes SPF reflect the light, making your face color look washed out. Also, photography in general washes you out, so it is important to wear a little more makeup than you would normally if you were going out. In the mirror it may look like too much, but when you get your pictures back you will be happy you did!

5. Do you use a certain kind of makeup with your applications? If so, what are your favorite brands? My favorite brand is MAC! I love their eyeshadows. They come in so many different colors and are highly pigmented. There are also a few things by other brands I love. One of my favorite non MAC products is Touche Eclat by YSL. It's great for darkness under your eyes! My favorite faux lashes are Ardell which you can find in just about any drug store.

6. Do you have any makeup tricks that you could give to my readers? Make sure you always use an eyeshadow base to make your shadow last longer and not crease! I like to use a light colored cream shadow so the powder shadow I am using grabs to the cream and stays put! You don't need a lot, apply enough to lightly cover your eyelid and up to your brow. Also, I like to do eye makeup before foundation because eyeshadow usually falls onto your cheeks and under your eyes and can be hard to remove, especially if your using dark colors. One more really important tip is to make sure your makeup is blended! For blending eyeshadow I like to use a blending brush and make light circular motions starting at my outer eye and keeping that same motion into my crease and back to the outer part of my eye. Repeat that a few times! And when you are applying a darker crease color, always start at the outer part of your eye, where you want it darkest and blend inward.

7. What is the number one thing you hear from girls getting their makeup done? (i.e: do they want something different? want to cover up their blemishes, etc) The number one thing is probably that they don't want to look too overdone and they want the makeup to look more natural.

8. Where can we locate you? How much is a makeup application? I am located in St. Petersburg, Florida, but do all on-location makeup and do travel. My prices range depending on what type of service you are looking for. I have prices listed for everything on my website so be sure to check it out if you are interested in booking with me!

Be sure to visit Kristine's website at: Fabulous Faces

The Ultimate Goal: Balance

2008-10-22T14:20:00.004-04:00

Balancing one's life completely is harder than getting rid of cellulite. With many people today juggling career(s), school, family-life, loved ones, and attempting to maintain a steady diet/exercise plan... we all want the answer to being able to align everything perfectly.

However - we will NEVER get it perfectly right. Such is life. It changes day to day, children get sick, our diet goes out the window, or you get into an arguement with your significant other. It's not easy, but it's manageable.

♥ It is crucial that you remain optimistic. Happy thoughts in... happy thoughts out. Surround yourself with positive people like Tia or Ariel

♥ Invest in a nice day planner that you are able to tote around. Organization is key. Organize household tasks efficiently. Doing one or two loads of laundry every day, rather than saving it all for your day off, and running errands in batches are good places to begin. A weekly family calendar of important dates and a daily list of to-dos will help you avoid deadline panic.

♥ Prioritize. Track everything you do for one week. Include work-related and non-work-related activities. Decide what's necessary and what satisfies you the most. Cut or delegate activities you don't enjoy and don't have time for.

♥ Understand that you cannot do it all. You can't. You are HUMAN. Unfortunately, there are only 24 hours in a day and you need to get some Zzz's in. Therefore, don't feel horrible if you can't be team MOM, PTA president AND have time for extra volunteering this week. It's OK!

♥ Reward yourself at times. Set aside time each day for an activity that you enjoy, such as walking, working out or listening to music. Unwind after a hectic workday by reading, practicing yoga, or taking a bath or shower.

♥ Have a Support System. Give yourself the gift of a trusted friend or co-worker to talk with during times of stress or hardship. Ensure you have trusted friends and relatives who can assist you when you need to work overtime or travel for your job.

Come Out & Play

2008-10-21T14:14:00.004-04:00

Cooler weather is upon us - and it's time to come out and play.

♥ Get up early and unwind outside with a cup of coffee, your newspaper, etc!

♥ Go to the Pumpkin Patch!

♥ Drive with the windows down (let your A/C relax)

♥ Plan a picnic in the park with someone you adore - perfect chance to cuddle up close!

♥ Wear something that is loose & flowy so that when you walk outside, you'll look like you're gliding.

♥ Fly a kite!

Butt How? - The Basics

2008-10-20T10:15:00.007-04:00

Smile! & Let your butt 'smile' too. Granted, yes, for the most part bikini season is gone for a few months, but what better time to get your derriere in shape? And in addition to that, there are lots of holidays coming up where you may just want to look good in a tanga or undies for the boyfriend or husband.

Let's get started:

♥ The Glutes (The facts)
The gluteus maximus or the glutes increase your speed and power for any number of athletic pursuits: To max out your performance, you need to develop them. They are probably the strongest muscle in our bodies. The gluteal group is composed of three separate muscles: the gluteus minimus, medius and maximus. The first two are smaller, deep-seated muscles that allow for the inward rotation of the femur (the bone between the pelvis and knee) and the outward movement of the legs away from your body— both get a lot of work when you walk or run. Overlying these smaller muscles is the gluteus maximus, which allows your leg to extend behind you and permits outward rotation of the femur. It’s also the primary gluteal muscle employed in cycling, jumping rope, squatting, climbing stairs and running.

♥ Squats
Squats are an excellent way to work out a number of different muscles. It is a lower body exercise used in strength training. The exercise's main emphasis is on the quadriceps and the glutes, but it also involves the hamstrings, the calves, and the lower back.

Note: You can do this exercise with or without added weight.

♥ Lunges
Lunges came out on top in targeting the gluteus medius and, to a lesser extent, the gluteus maximus and the hamstrings. There are so many versions of lunges, you're certain to find one you can tolerate, if not fall in love with.

[Walking lunges]

(Beginning with one foot, simply stride forward (walk) as far as you comfortably can while keeping the dumbbells hanging down at your sides. It is very important that when you plant your striding foot that your knee stays perpendicular to the floor and does not extend past that point.)

[Reverse lunges]

(Really reach back with this stride to get a good stretch. Bring that leg back to the start position and repeat the same movement with your opposite leg. Be sure to keep your back firmly upright and straight throughout this exercise.)

Note: These reverse lunges really grab a hold of your glutes and with proper form you will definitely feel these exercises. After a few weeks, add weights to your sets.

♥ Step Ups
These are one of those exercises that seem like a good idea, but you're never exactly sure if you're doing anything. However, I assure you that step ups really do work the glutes and the hamstrings. The trick is to make sure you're stepping up onto a platform that's high enough to really activate those muscle fibers, one that's about 15 inches high. Holding dumbbells can add some nice intensity to the movement as well. Find a bench, or chair - and really focus on squeezing your glutes.

♥ Other Helpful Tools
*Walking

*Running

*Cycling

*Jump roping

♥ Putting It All Together
I could just list out a bunch of exercises to do; however I think it's important to have some sort of direction for you. Here's a sample plan that you can begin to use - and hopefully you will notice some excellent results:

* Do 3 sets of 12 squats - focus on slow movement, add weight if needed. If you have the use of a stability ball - place it against the wall and utilize that.

* Do 2 sets of walking lunges. Lunge forward about 10 times. REALLY focus on your form- make sure your back is straight up, don't lean into it. Add weight if needed.

* Do 3 sets of 12 reverse lunges. Slow and steady is KEY - again focus on the form, because you want to really utilize the glutes here.

* Step Up onto a surface 12 times, break for 30 seconds, and then do another set.

Get in these exercises twice per week along with a nice walk, run, cycle, or jump roping session & you will begin to see some real results. As a beginner, don't use weight and focus on form first. As you get better at it, then increase the weight and/or repetitions.

Any questions: email me at rebekah.reidy@gmail.com
Thank you to Shapefit.com for use of the images.

Weekend Slacker

2008-10-17T11:54:00.004-04:00

So you busted your butt all week long - ate right, got in a few workouts, increased your water intake and now your thrilled its the weekend because now you can:

♥ Go out and drink
♥ Splurge at the sports bar = fried food FTW!
♥ Lay around all weekend
♥ Party, party, party

Yikes. There's something about weekends that sends caution--and calories--to the wind. Even if your workweek is all about smart snacks and sensible dinners, for many of us, all bets are off come 5 PM Friday. Researchers found that participants on strict diet and exercise programs tend to lose weight more slowly than expected because they eat more on weekends than during the week.

If you’re going to splurge on the weekends, make sure you increase your activity. Remember, it’s calories in, calories out. Take advantage of your weekend time off and go outside for a walk.

Also, take steps to balance and moderate your weekend splurges by having a game plan before you dine out. For instance, when you know you’re going to have a Martini before dinner, you can plan to skip the appetizer or the dessert.

Some extra tips:

♥ Some decompressing is essential, but planting yourself on the couch for hours can lead to trouble. A long stretch of inactivity can inspire compulsive nibbling, especially if boredom is one of your overeating triggers. Also, don't forget to work downtime into your week so you don't feel as exhausted come the weekend.

♥ With fewer responsibilities and no early morning wake-up calls, even weekday teetotalers don't think twice about a cocktail before dinner--and then another while they eat. The problem: "Alcohol breaks down inhibitions, so it's harder to make healthy food choices when you do sit down," says Gary Foster, PhD, director of the Center for Obesity Research and Education at Temple University. Choose high-quality drinks you'll want to savor, such as vintage wine or single malt scotch, over high-cal fruity concoctions, and sub in one or two club sodas with lime.

Get Physical

2008-10-14T21:58:00.002-04:00

♥ Get up early and go for a walk - take the dog, they need some exercise too.

♥ Before you go to bed, get in a nice stretch. Hold each position for 2-3 minutes.

♥ Take the stairs instead of the elevator.

♥ Park far from the store. Save your car from dents and get in some steps.

♥ While you are watching your nightly show, do crunches, push-ups, or lift dumbbells during the commericals.

It's time to get physical. Get rid of the excuses - we've already heard them all. Don't do it for the boy next door or to get into a 'size 2', but rather, focus on your mind and health. Be healthy for you and I guarantee, everything else will fall into place. Learn to enjoy being active. Find something you love. Don't like running? Don't run. Bike instead. It's time to put your health first because frankly, it's been put on the back burner for far too long.

Stress: 101

2008-10-04T20:52:00.004-04:00

Let's face it. Times are tough & so is life, on occasion. Unfortunately though, we have grown to accepting that 90% of our time is spent STRESSING over situations.

Since stress is such a huge part of ALL of our lives, I decided to put together some information each week dealing with how you can begin to take this stress OUT of your life, slowly but surely. My hopes are that I will touch some aspect of stress that is related to your life and you will be able to use the information to begin being happy again.

Stress 101: Stress Diet?

♥ Many women want to do it all, but when there aren't enough hours in the day, we end up running on empty — literally. According to a recent article in the Daily Mail, a new type of eating disorder, "stressorexia," may be emerging amongst modern women.

"Stressorexia is not a scientific diagnosis that a doctor would make but anecdotally its symptoms are very prevalent among women." (Dr. Adrian Lord)

The more women juggle, the more anxious and stressed out they become. Some say stressorexia starts with a missed lunch and spirals out of control from there, resulting in massive weight loss. When people are too preoccupied to eat, it makes perfect sense.

I'm the kind of person who never skips a meal — I become shaky and irritable — but I know many people who oftentimes look down at their watch and say, "oops, I forgot to eat lunch!" So, even if you're having a stressful day at work or at home with the kids, do you ever fall victim to the "stress diet"?

Sunburned

2008-08-26T12:37:00.004-04:00

You did everything you were supposed to do. You wore a hat, you stayed in the shade as much as possible and you applied sunblock with a protection factor of at least 15. Still, you got burned. Ouch.

"Even with the best intentions, many people will suffer at least one sunburn each summer," said Dee Anna Glaser, M.D., dermatologist and associate professor of dermatology at Saint Louis University School of Medicine. "They forget to reapply sunblock after swimming or they miss spots or they stayed outside longer than expected. A sunburn can be a painful lesson."

In general... some of the Do's & Don'ts are as follows:

DO'S-------
> Take a cool bath-not ice cold, but cool-without any bubble bath, bath salts or oils in the water.
> Apply cold compresses to the skin.
> Sit near a fan or an air conditioner.
> Stay out of the sun. Tender skin should be protected against the sun until it has healed, which usually takes a couple of weeks.
> Take aspirin, acetaminophen or ibuprofen to ease the pain and inflammation.
> To rehydrate (add moisture to) the skin and help reduce swelling, apply a thick, bland moisturizer, aloe or a one-percent hydrocortisone cream on the sunburned areas. Make sure the moisturizers have little or no alcohol content.
> Drink extra water to replace the fluid lost in the swelling of sunburned skin and to prevent dehydration and dizziness.
> Apply an over-the-counter anesthetic spray to ease the pain.

DON'TS-------
> Do not take a hot bath to "draw out the heat." Glaser said this treatment myth might only injure your skin further.
> Do not scrub your skin.
> If possible, do not apply lotions or moisturizers that contain extras, such as perfumes or preservatives.
> Do not pick at blisters or remove your skin when the peeling process begins. This can result in infection. Let the skin fall off naturally.

In addition to these 'normal' remedies; there have been lists upon lists of FOLK REMEDIES such as:

*ALOE; very effective in relieving pain and inflammation.

*VINEGAR; will prevent blistering and peeling.

*LEMON WATER; will cool the burn, act as a disinfectant, and will promote healing of the skin.

In any case, if you experience chills, fever, or rashes - you may have sun poisioning and you should seek a doctor immediately.

Back to School

2008-08-25T17:02:00.003-04:00

School is back in session, whether you have kids attending school or you are in school yourself or even BOTH; there's nothing more fun than homework, tests and quizzes right? ... NOT! However, furthering ones' education is extremely special and we should take advantage of the situation in some cases. Make it a point to succeed this semester. Shoot for the best grade possible, and don't merely attend, to attend. Attempt to learn something. Knowledge, after all, is power.

Some ways to help you succeed:

1. Take notes effectively

A good set of notes can serve you well. Your notes help you remember which concepts your professor stressed and, thus, give you an idea as to what will be covered in the exam. Note taking also helps you concentrate on the lecture.

2. Learn to read actively

Most of the material you have to learn at university is presented in written form. That's why it's so important to know an active reading technique that will enable you to learn and remember what you read.

3. Learn to write effective term papers

At University, term papers are very important. Your professors assign them so that they can see how well you understand the material and how effectively you can discuss the pertinent issues. Your goal is to use your papers to convince your professor you deserve the mark you want.

4. Manage your study sessions

Your schedule is likely a hectic one. Besides attending classes, doing homework and studying for tests and exams, you might also be holding down a part-time job, participating in a team sport, and looking after an apartment. You need to manage your time very efficiently if you are to keep up with your studies and finish your assignments on time.

5. Balance your life

Devoting all of your time to school work may sound like a sure fire way to succeed in your courses, but living only for school can actually lead to burn-out. Conversely, spending too much time on leisure or other activities can lead to major stress (or even failure) when exam time comes. Finding the proper balance between time for school and time for everything else is a crucial step in achieving success.

6. Set a career goal

Setting career goals is a crucial step towards success. Career goals are the focus and the reason behind all the hard work you're doing now. When you don't have a sense of what you're moving towards, things can seem pretty pointless. Knowing how a particular assignment relates in the long run to your future career can be the motivation you need to actually do it.

7. Deal with personal issues

Life has a way of handing us ups and downs when we least expect them. This means that sometimes your life is going to get in the way of your studies. It's important to realize and accept that there will be times when you are just not able to work or study because life issues are demanding more attention. If this happens to you, be ready to seek out resources to help you deal with the situation.

8. Work the system

Success at university is more than just doing well in classes; it's knowing how to work with the system. There are things that you need to know that you won't necessarily be told. And with regards to university regulations, ignorance is not bliss! So be prepared to ask questions and dig a little to find out the information.

♥ Saturday; the Simple Life.

2008-08-23T14:32:00.006-04:00

♥ Go for a walk with a pet or a friend. Enjoy the outside.

♥ Write a letter to an old friend & send it through snail mail.

♥ Attempt a craft -- Origami, jewelry, or something that interests you.

♥ Browse MySpace's music list & search for 'unsigned' artists. Listen and be enlightened.

♥ Sign up for an event (5K, bike ride, walk, etc..) & get a friend to join you.

♥ Pick flowers or buy flowers and set them in your house.

Lipstick Jungle

2008-02-08T09:20:00.000-05:00

Lipstick Jungle premiered last night. Based on the best-selling book by Candace Bushnell ("Sex and the City"), this sexy new drama follows three high-powered friends as they weather the ups and downs of lives lived at the top of their game.

Movie exec Wendy (Brooke Shields) does everything she can to balance career and family. Nico (Kim Raver), editor-in-chief of a hot fashion magazine, has her eye on becoming CEO. And free-spirited designer Victory (Lindsay Price) longs to make her dreams come true, and maybe find "Mr. Right" along the way.

Armed with humor and strength, these three modern New York women support one another through the triumphs and tears that are all part of making it big in the Big Apple.

For re-caps/bios etc... visit: It's a Jungle out there,Dress Accordingly

Be Surprised. 2/7/08

2008-02-07T07:37:00.001-05:00

♥ Text/Email/IM your S.O. a love letter in another language and make him/her figure it out. Translator.

♥ Send your best friend an e-card to tell her how you appreciate her (and tell her to pass it on).

♥ Write a list of 5 things that you love about yourself. (and leave a comment telling the world what those 5 things are).

♥ Drink water in place of soda.

♥ Smile.

Hidden Loves ♥

2008-02-06T13:04:00.000-05:00

Shhh…

We all have certain things we absolutely love – but we don’t quite make it known to people. It isn’t that we’re embarrassed persay, we just do not find times where we can bring up our “hidden loves”. These hidden loves can be about anything that excites you or makes you happy.

Here’s a list of my “hidden” loves:

♥ The Real Housewives of the O.C.
I am not a huge fan of TV in general, but this show just grabs my attention like a bad habit. I end up laughing, crying, and everything in between. Thanks mom, for introducing me to that!

♥ American Idol
Okay, so, I am not psycho about it – I do enjoy watching it though. And, yes I have voted before, if I really liked someone!

♥ Trivia ANYTHING

♥ Buying/Wearing Cute Workout Clothes
Yes, I know I am about to sweat profusely at the gym, but why not look cute doing it? Studies have proven that women who wear tighter fitting clothes and feel beautiful at the gym, end up working out longer and harder. My favorite: www.bebesport.com

♥ Oldies Music
By oldies, I mean 60’s, 70’s & 80’s (sorry to the older folks) – but oldies music just makes me smile for some reason. Obviously, it isn’t my choice of music to dance to at the club, but in the car, with my girlfriends, it is so fun to jam out too.

♥ Sending/Receiving “Snail” Mail
Emailing and E-cards are amazing, but receiving or sending actual "snail: mail excites me so much!

♥ Vintage ANYTHING
There is something about buying a vintage coat or purse that makes me happy.

♥ Flowers
I buy them for myself whenever I go to the grocery store – they smell great and they bring a sense of peace into the house.

♥ Pot-Bellied Pigs
I want one… so bad! I think they are cute when they are tiny, and I just recently found out that they actually sometimes get HUGE!

♥ Personal Reading
I learn so much from books and it relaxes me.

♥ Daily planners
I am quite possibly obsessed with mine – it goes everywhere.

♥ “Punk” Style
The self-expression intrigues me; the piercings, tattoos, style of clothing, and sometimes “bad ass attitude” is fun to watch!

♥ People-watching
Not to ridicule them in anyway, but just being able to sit back and watch how people inter-relate and converse, is so interesting to me.

♥ Muscles
Not popping out Arnold style – but noticeable ones make me tingly. :faints:

From my friends…

♥ Lip gloss
“I don’t have any favorite ones, I buy new ones because they are pretty or smell nice, or hell, even because they plump my lips or are sparkly like water.” –AR

♥ Sex/Cuddling While It Is Raining

♥ Buying Running Shoes
“I enjoy buying them, not because they feel the best, but because they are pretty pink or match my workout clothes!” – AR

♥ America’s Funniest Home Videos

What are some of your hidden loves? (Leave a comment & Discuss!)

Wake Up Sunshine!

2008-02-06T10:20:00.002-05:00

A couple of things you should do today...

♥ Read a newspaper in public.

♥ Design yourself a new signature.

♥ Buy a notebook & plan your look for next season.

♥ Drink a really good coffee & leave lipstick on the rim.

♥ Take a cute picture in the bathroom & send it to your S.O.

♥ Tell a stranger that they have a cute outfit on!

Bare-ing it all: Lingerie

2008-02-05T13:22:00.000-05:00

There are many theories on why women love to wear lingerie. For women it isn’t about whether or not anyone else will see it, it is for themselves. How women perceive themselves helps their over all self esteem. If you think you look sexy in that camisole then you are sexy. Looking and feeling good is a big part our society today. Many people assume when a woman wears lingerie that is solely for a man’s pleasure. Even though lingerie has been worn for centuries for the pleasure of the opposite sex, it is not the main focus for women these days or in the past. Now it is more of a notion of self-image and feeling attractive for ones self rather than for anybody else. It is about feeling good about the whole you and knowing you are sexy even when you don’t readily show everyone else.

Interestingly enough, marketing approaches have also changed as well these last few years. Their message today not only promotes looking sexy for your partner, they also tell you to feel sexy for you as well and more importantly. Lingerie has always made to be exotic and teasing. Today, women can get just as much pleasure just from wearing it as they can by being viewed in it. In some cases they can get more out of just wearing it for them and not other. Some women are very shy and are not willing to immediately slip into something sexy for some one else’s viewing pleasure. This type of display can make them feel awkward or anxious. Just wearing the sexy lingerie when no one else knows can help spark self-esteem and desire in her self. Now designers are gearing this sexy wear for comfort, movement, and everyday practicality as well as sleek and sexy. Not only does this trend in design say a lot about marketing it says a lot about women in society today.

Back in the day of boned corsets that left women barely able to breathe or move, comfort was not the option. It was implied that proper women did not move all around and had no need to. It was also under the premise that women had no need to be out in the world. Their job was to cater to their husbands, home and families. Comfort was not in the equation. Not to mention that lingerie was not for the common women so it carried prestige and merit. But as the time changed and women became more active in political, economical, and the social realms of the world lingerie has taken a huge change. It is not geared towards the woman her self and the comfort and sexiness she needs. There for lingerie had to become modernized by being less restrictive. There is lingerie and intimate apparel for all occasions that are of great comfort and flexibility for every taste and body type today.

Lingerie designers are finally recognizing that beauty is not some standardized thing. Women are now demanding that designers make sexy and practical lingerie that is realistic and designed for all women, not just the standard. Women want to feel and look beautiful to them. That beauty and appreciation for their own body will permeate their personality and trickle into all areas of their lives. Women are tired and have no use to constantly try to fit into some impossible idealistic box anymore. It is now about being appreciated for the individual you. This has been proven with the burst of lingerie for fuller sized women today. The designs of today are now finally geared to the real size women and she can feel sexy too. So now fuller figured women can also feel and look as sexy too, no matter what their size is.

The wearing of lingerie for a woman can be as much sensual as it sexual. It has to do with self-image. The women today are strong, independent, and vibrant and should be free to explore their own personal sexuality. The shopping for and wearing of lingerie today is such a sensual pleasure for women today. It is not the lingerie that gives a women confidence it is the woman’s self-esteem created by feeling good about her self that gives her an air of confidence, beauty, and sensitivity.

As many of you may or may not know, I have been designing and constructing garments for about four years now. It's definitely one of my passions. And I hope to get into the lingerie industry at least for a selection of garments because I think it would be extremely fun! Lingerie should reflect your inner-self. I encourage all of you girls (and boyfriends, husbands, best friends) to buy lingerie this season. I swear to you, it will make you feel like a million dollars underneath your clothes!

"I love to wear lingerie. The problem is that men always rip it off too quickly. When women are dolled up in lingerie they feel sexy. So let us wear it for five minutes." >Karen McDougal